ਪੋਹ ਮਾਘ ਦੀਆਂ ਠੰਡੀਆਂ ਰਾਤਾ

ਪੋਹ ਮਾਘ ਦੀਆਂ ਠੰਡੀਆਂ ਰਾਤਾ ..ਜੇਠ ਹਾੜ ਦੇ ਤਪਦੇ ਦੁਪੈਹਰਾ ਨੂ ਹਿਕ਼ਾ ਨਾਲ ਲਾ ਕੇ ਏ.ਕੇ ਸੰਤਾਲੀਆਂ ..ਆਪਣੇ ਘਰ ਪਰਿਵਾਰਾ ਦੀ ਨਾ ਪ੍ਰਵਾਹ ਕਰਦੇ ਹੋਏ .. ਆਪਣੇ ਘਰ ਦਾ ਮੋਹ ਤਿਆਗ ਕੇ ਸਿਖ ਕੌਮ ਦੇ ਕੌਮੀ ਘਰ "ਖਾਲਿਸਤਾਨ " ਦੀ ਸਥਾਪਤੀ ਲਈ ਜੂਝਣ ਵਾਲੇ ਸੂਰਮੇ ਸਿੰਘਾ ਦੇ ਸ਼ਹੀਦੀ ਸਮਾਗਮ ਲਈ ਜਿਲਾ ਬਰਨਾਲਾ ਦੀ ਸੰਗਤ ਵਿਚ ਬੜਾ ਓਤ੍ਸਾਹ ਹੈ ? ਗੁਰੂ ਨੇ ਮੇਹਰ ਕੀਤੀ ਹੈ ਸਾਡਾ ਇਹ ਤੀਜਾ ਸਲਾਨਾ ਸਮਾਗਮ ਹੈ ਗੁਰੂ ਮੇਹਰ ਕਰੇ ...ਸਾਰੀ ਸੰਗਤ ਪਾਰਟੀ ਬਾਜ਼ੀ ਤੋਂ ਓਪਰ ਓਠ ਕੇ ਸਾਥ ਦੇ ਰਹੀ ਹੈ .... ਸਮਾਗਮ ਦੀਆਂ ਤਿਆਰੀਆਂ ਜੋਰ ਸੋਰ ਨਾਲ ਚਲ ਰਹੀਆਂ ਨੇ ...ਬਾਕੀ ਗੁਰੂ ਭਲੀ ਕਰੇ ਸੰਗਤ ਦੀ ਚਰਨ ਧੂੜ

How to Get Visitors to Your Blog — 11 Free, Easy Ways

How to Get Visitors to Your Blog — 11 Free, Easy Ways
So you’ve got a great blog with great content — only no one knows it yet. Not a problem, because getting visitors to great content is one of the easiest things you’ll ever do. Here’s how to get visitors to your blog.

TAKE ADVANTAGE OF YOUR NETWORK

If you’ve been actively getting out and meeting your neighbors, you’ve built up a pretty good network of blogging and website-owning friends. Drop them an email to let them know about your new blog and ask them if they’ll let their readers know about it, too. (And don’t forget to give it a little link love on any sites that you control, too!)

GUEST BLOG

If you’re an active blog reader (and if you’re a blog writer, you ought to also be a blog reader), you’ve probably seen guest bloggers on several of the blogs that you read. Well, scoring just one post on a popular blog can give your own blog a great jumpstart. It’s one of the best ways to get visitors to your blog. Check out Darren’s post on Why Guest Bloggers are Great for a Blog for more info and links to his full series on guest blogging, and check out Blogger LinkUp for opportunities.

COMMENT ON OTHER BLOGS

Commenting on other blogs is a great way to get noticed, both by the blogger and by people reading the comments. You’ll get a special benefit from those who maintain a Top Commentators list, too. Make sure your comments add value to the discussion, though. Nobody likes to wade through a lot of “That’s right!” or “I agree” comments. (The strategy could backfire in a huge way if you try to get visitors to your blog by spamming other blogs.)

Also, the sooner you comment on a post that later becomes very popular, the more visibility (and clickthroughs) you’ll end up getting. You’ll probably develop an eye pretty quickly for which posts are going to end up being really popular.

GIVE OUT THE LINK LOVE

In every post you write, be sure to give out as much link love as possible. Most avid bloggers watch their sites like a hawk and will notice right away if someone has linked to them, quite often leading to a beautiful friendship. Create posts specifically to review, expound, critique or disagree with things other bloggers have written (always respectfully so), and be aware of other opportunities to link out in every post you write. Don’t get so hung up on getting visitors to your blog that you try to get them from going anywhere else once they find you.

PROMOTE YOUR BLOG’S URL

Keep an eye out for different ways to make people aware of your blog’s URL. The most obvious way is to be active in forums and include your blog in your signature, but you can also include it on letterhead, in your email signature, and lots of other places. Be creative.

BLOG CARNIVALS

Blog carnivals are great for driving traffic to your blog. Participants in each Change of Shift, for example, all see a significant burst of traffic to their blogs in the days after each edition. Check out Blog Carnival for a huge list of carnivals on all sorts of topics.

And to really give your traffic a boost, actually host a blog carnival. A word of warning, though: for some carnivals, hosting can be a ton of work. Make sure you don’t take on more than you can handle. Talk to some of the previous hosts to get an idea of how much time it took them, and make sure you participate several times to get a feel for the carnival itself.

BLOG LIVE

If you have an opportunity to go to an interesting conference or other gathering that others can’t get to, blog live from there and include plenty of pictures. If you’re one of the few doing, it or if you do a particularly good job, you’ll find lots of bloggers recommending that their readers check out your coverage.

DON’T IGNORE SEARCH ENGINE OPTIMIZATION

Making sure your blog is optimized for search engines is a very smart thing to do. It may not make much difference in the short-term, but it will pay huge dividends the larger and older your blog gets. Look for a dedicated post about this soon.

In the meantime, though, you want to be intentional about your SEO without overdoing it. Gimmicks like John Chow’s would totally turn readers off on most blogs (but it fits his perfectly).

INTERVIEW A POPULAR BLOGGER

As I wrote in Can I Interview You for My Blog?, approaching someone for an interview is a great way to get your site noticed. Interview a popular blogger in your niche or, maybe better yet, interview a not-yet-popular blogger who should be. You can always say you gave them their big break

CREATE A THEME

The majority of bloggers don’t design the themes for their blog. Thus, the demand for themes is very high. If you can create a good theme that other bloggers start to use, you’ll start to see the links to your site really start to pile up. (And, granted, this one may not qualify as “easy” for most of us.)

JOIN A BLOG NETWORK

A blog network is simply a collection of blogs that help drive traffic to one another. Large, established networks might not let new blogs in, but many do hold open application periods every so often. You can also approach networks that look like a good fit for your blog or even start your own — getting visitors to your blog and helping others to do the same!

Most Importantly…
All of these tips assume that you’ve already got great content — which is easily the number one way to get visitors to your blog. If you don’t have great content, you’re just wasting your time. The visitors will leave just as quickly as the came, and you’ve quite likely lost a chance to get them back. If you do have great content, though, you may not have to do anything else. People will talk and link and promote you themselves without you having to lift a finger. It’s not quite “If you build it, they will come,” but it’s close.

So focus first on posting stuff worth reading before you start trying to get people to read it. You won’t be disappointed!

All Women Secretly Hate Each Other

All Women Secretly Hate Each Other

Scientists apparently don't work in offices: * [Women who had only one female boss][1] reported more psychological distress (such as trouble sleeping, difficulty focusing on work, depression and anxiety) and physical symptoms (such as headaches, stomach pain or heartburn, neck and back pain and tiredness) than women who worked for one male boss... * The findings, specifically those of female subordinates with females bosses, contradict theories suggested by previous studies that demographic similarities between a boss and their subordinate would promote harmony in the work place, while demographic differences would create problems.I would suggest that the "theories" mentioned above are based more on political presumption than studies, as it is obvious to anyone who has worked in an office where a woman manages multiple women that they simply do not - cannot - get along with their subordinates.Over the course of 20 years I've had numerous female bosses, and I've gotten along with them swimmingly. They've been as competent as any other middle managers, as willing to listen to others as men, and basically not a problem for me to manage. Where they had problems, it was always with the women that they managed.The reason is not that women are incompetent in managerial roles; they're not. The problem is that All Women Secretly Hate Each Other (AWSHEO). While men have friends they seldom see - I have best buddies I see but once every five years, and we pick up just as if the last time I saw them was last Friday - women seem to have few friends like that. They are either best friends and thus inseparable or they are worst enemies - irreconcilable and willing to go out of their way to undermine another woman's position, reputation, and other friendships in the most hurtful way possible. Because women attach far more emotion to relationships than men, those relationships, whether at work or play, carry an intensity that cannot be set side just because one happens to be on the clock, especially when they go bad.While exceptions are probably not hard to find I suspect, I think that part of it arises from the nearly universal female trait of taking everything personally. If I have a boss - male or female - who's an idiot, I can accept that as a price to be paid for the fact that I don't aspire to that position, and I don't lose any sleep over it. But women, being by nature egalitarian creatures, are completely open in despising a female boss once they discover that she is not the boss because she's "better," but only because for whatever other reason, she's the boss. Female bosses, who also take such insubordination personally, are liable to go out of their way to make sure a female subordinate knows her place. The result is a continual catfight, especially when multiple female subordinates feel the same way and can gang up.All that said, I've never had a boss who was either a declared career woman or a feminist, consciously trying to prove that women were as good as men and therefore (over)using the "male" traits that all people find so insufferable in bosses, so maybe my experience is unusual. Each of them were* just as good as men, though most of them eventually left their positions to raise their kids full-time, a decision I completely understand and respect.

Dard E Dil

          Dard E Dil

Aaj Humse koi Yun Salam kar gaya,

Hume Apni Yaadon ka Gulam kar gaya...

Humne to Usse Khushiyo ke Badle Kharida Tha,

Vo to Hume hi Neelam kar gaya,

Payar ki Vo Hasin kahan se laau,

Teri Dosi se Achi Takdeer kaha se laau

Har Janam mein Mille Saath Tera,

Ab Tu Hi Bata Apne Haathon mein vo Lakeer Kahan se Laau...

Har Baat Samjane Ki Nahi Hoti,

Jindgi Hamesha Paane ki Nahi Hoti

Yaad Aksar Aati hai Apki,

Par Har Yaad Jatane Ke Liye Nahi Hoti...

Hava Bina Patte Kade Hilde Nahi,

Athru Bina Matlab ton Dulde Nahi

Dost tan Milde ne Duniya Vich Bemushaar,

Par Dil De Buhe Har Kisse Agge Khulde Nahi...

Koi Khawab Aankho mein Sajaya Nahi,

Hamare Dil Ki Gaharai Koi Samaj Paya nahi

Kisi ko Mahsus ho kami Hamari,

Rab ne Hamme Essa Banaya Nahi...

Usko Chaha Par Ijhaar Karna Nahi Aaya,

Beet gayi Umar Hame Pyar karna nahi aaya

Usne Manga to Mangi Judai,

Aur Hamme Inkaar karna nahi aaya...

Kagaj par Kuch hota to Mita Dete,

Kiya hota Sodha to Kimat Chuka Dete

Kaise Bhula Dun Tujhe o Yaad vaale,

Agar aaya hota Supna to Bhula dete...

Ulfat ki Janjeer se Dar lagati hai,

Kuch Apni Takdeer se Dar lagata hai

Jo Kisi ko Kisi si Juda karti hai,

Haath ki Uss Lakeer se Dar Lagta hai...

Socho Pani Se Judaa Hokar Machhliya Kyon Mar jati hai?,

Kyonki Unhe Maalum Nahi Tha

Ki Najdikiya Pahale Aadat, fir Jarurat aur,

fir Jindgi Ban Jati hai...

Dil Nu Lag Jaan Rog tan Ki Kariye,

Kisi di Yaad'ch Akhiyan Ron tan ki Kariye

Saanu Milne Di Tamanna tan Rahandi hai Har Dam,

Je Yaar hi Bhul Jave Tan Ki Kariye...

Dard Hai Dil mein Par Iska Ehsaas nahi hota,

Rota hai Dil Jab vo Paas Nahi hota

Barbaad ho gaye Hum Unki Mohbat mein,

Aur vo Kahate hai iss Tarah Pyar nahi hota...

Aag Sooraj se Nikalti hai,

Jalna Jamin ko Padta hai

Mohabat Niganhe karti hai,

Tadafna Dil ko Padta hai...

Ik Umran di Judaayi Mere Nasib Karke,

Oh chale Gaye Gal Ajib Karke

Wafa nu Usdi Mein Ki Naa Denva,

Khud Door ho gaye Menu Karib Karke...

Rab Jane Unna de Dil vich ki Aaya,

Jo Sanu Chup Chaap Hi Chhad Gaye

Kayi Vaar tan inj Jape ki Oh Sanu Galat Samaj ke Chhad Gaye,

Khud Kahande si Saath Nibhavange par Kite Door Hi Chhad Gaye ne

Rabba Salamat Rakhi Sade Sajna Nu,

Jo Sanu Yaad vi Karno Bhul Gaye ne...

Dil ne Socha ek Dost Milla,

Mein bhi Kitna Khunasib hun

Jab milli Usse Bewafai,

Socha mein bhi Kitna Badnasib Hun...

Enna Pyar na sanu kar Adiye,

Ban Peerh Akhan ch Radkange

Har Saah te Likhya Naam Jaau,

Tere Dil'ch Mud-Mud Dhadkange

Iss Ishq vich mil jaau Khushi Koi,

Iss Gal te Naa koi Etbaar Kare

Kithe tak Bhaj laoo ga Koi,

Eh tan Suteya te vi Waar Kare...

Gam Sahana Sikh Liya,

Dard Mein Chup Rahana Sikh Liya

Nahi Aate Ab Hamare Kisi ke Samne,

Aansuon ne bhi Akele mein Bahana sikh Liya...

Tun Pyar di Kashti Dobh Chali,

Mein taar ke vi karda

Jadh Tunhi Athru Punjane ni,

Mein Akhiya Paadh ke ki karda

Ethe Lakha Ranjhe Firde ne,

Mein Mirza Ban ke ki karda

Dukh Dard tan mere Mukadara vich,

Mein Shikva kar ke vi ki karda

Jado Jiyona Aaya Menu ni,

Mein Mot vi Mang ke ki karda

Jadh Ant Judaiyan Peni si,

Tera Saath vi Karke ki Karda....

Pada na Farak Anokhi Juban Likhne se,

Jamin Jamin Hi Rahi Aasman Likhne se

Raha Jisse Talluk Har Gadi Meri,

Vo Ban na Sakki Meri,

Jan Jan Likhne se....

Najro se Sara Kaam Hua,

Yaar toh Yun hi Badnaam Hua

Jis Din se Rachai Unhone Hathon Mein Mehandi,

Sare Shahar mein Katleaam Hua...

Dil Mein Hajaron Gam ChuPaye Rakhte hai,

Haste hai Sabko Hasaye Rakhte hai

Log Kahate hai Jindgi ho to Hamari Jaisi,

Aur Hum Khud Mot ki Aas Lagaye Rakhate hai...

Mohabat Ek Barish Jaisi hai,

Jisse Chhupne par Hatheliya to Gili hai ho Jati hai

Magar Haat Hamesha,

Khali ke Khali Rahate hai...

Mere Bite Hue Jindgi ki Kuch,

Itni si Kahahani thi

Kuch Hum Khud BarBaad Hue,

Kuch Unki MeharBani thi...

Roj Kisi Ka Intejaar Hota hai,

Roj Ye Dil Bekarar Hota hai

Kash ke Koi Samaj Pata,

Ki chup Rahane Walo ko bhi Kisi se Pyar hota hai...

Do Kadam toh Sab chal Lete hai,

Par Jindgi Bhar Koi Nahi Nibhata

Agar Ro kar Bhulai Jati Yadein,

Toh Hass ke Koi Gam Nahi Chhupata….

Great Lines said by a Broken Heart:

E Khuda Tu Ishq Na Karna,

Varna Bahut Khub Pachtayega

Hum toh Marker Tere Paas Aate hai,

Tun Kaha jayega…

Log Kahte hai Jisse Hadd se Jyada Pyar Karo,

Wo Pyar ki Kadar Nahi Karta

Pyar ki Kadar Unse Jano,

Jinhe Koi Pyar Nahi Karta…

Tute Hue Dil se Kisi Ne Khub Kaha hai,

Kaash ki Tum Mot Hoti,

Toh Ek na Ek Din Meri Jarur Hoti…

Tare Ohi Ginde Raatan Nu,

Jinna Nu Kise Da Intejaar Hove

Yaad vi Ohna Di Hi Aaundi hai,

Jina Naal Dilon Pyar Hove…

Aansuo ke Sagar mein Dil ko Dubote hue,

 Saari Raat Gujar Di Rote Hue

Majak Kaise Kiya Takdeer ne ki,

Unhe Pa na Sakke Unke Hote Hue…

Dil Tut Jata hai Par Khanak Nahi Hoti,

Har Dadkan Roti hai Par Palak Nahi Roti

Mohabat Naam Hai Khuda ki Bandgi ka,

Jo Sharto par ki Jaye Wo Mohabat Nahi…

Gam Unka Hum Apnaye Baithe hai,

Paas Toh Aaye Magar Door Wo Baithe hai

Najro se Najre Mille To Ho Batein,

Magar Afsos wo Seer Jhukaye Baithe hai…

Kisi ke Dil ka Dard Kisne Dekha Hai,

Jisne Dekha hai Sirf Chehara Dekha hai

Dard toh Tanhaiyo mein Hota hai,

Aur Tanhaiyo mein Logo ne Hamme Haste Dekha hai…

Kuch Sitaro ki Chamak Nahi Jati,

Kuch Yaadon ki Kasak Nahi Jati

Kuch Logo se Hota hai Essa Rishta,

Ki Door Rehakar Bhi Unki Mahak Nahi Jata…

Kisi ne mujh se Puchh Liya Kaise ho,

Mene Has kar Kaha – Jindgi mein Gam hai

Gam mein Dard hai,

Dard Mein Maja Hai,

Or Mai Maje mein Hun…

Jo Nahi Aata Uska Intejaar Kyun Hota hai,

Kisi Ke Liye Apna Ye Haal Kyun Hota hai

Vaise toh Iss Duniya mein Kafi Cheez Pyari hai,

Jo Nahi Milta Ussi se Pyar Kyun Hota Hai…

Sath Nahi Rahane Se Rishte Nahi tuta Karte,

Waqat ki Dund se Lamhe nahi Tuta karte

Log Kahate hai Mera Sapna tut gaya,

Tuti to Neend hai Sapne Nahi Tuta Karte…

Tanha Chhod Kar Humko HOsla bhi Dete hai,

Saans Chhen kar Jine ki Dua Bhi dete hai

Ek Taraf Judai ka Gam Jari hai,

Aur Muskurane Ka Mashwara bhi Dete ho…

Jaan se Jyada Unhe Pyar Kiya Karte the,

Yaad Unge Din Raat Kiya Karte The

Ab Unn Rahon se Gujra nahi Jata,

Jahan Baith Kar Unka Intejaar Kiya Karte the…

Sade Pyar di Kiti Puja da Kade Mul Kise ne Paya Nahi,

Assi Ban de Rahe Majak Uhna Lai,

Kade Kise Da Majak Udaya Nahi…

Sabse Gul Mil Jane ki Aadat hai Hamme,

Apni Alag Pehachan Banane Ki Aadat hai Hamme

Jitna Koi Gahara Gam Deta hai,

Utna Hi Mitha Muskurane Ki Aadat hai Hamme…

Vaqat Har Cheez Mita Deta hai,

Kuch Hasin Lamho ko Bhula Deta hai

Par Nahi Mita Sakta Aapki Yaadein,

Kyun Vaqat hi Aapki Yaad dila Deta hai…

Meri Tanhai Puchhti hai Mujhse,

Bata Kon Bichhad Gaya hai Tujhse

Kya Batau KI Mera Koi Sathi Hi Nahi,

Shayad Aaj Juda ho Gaya hu Khudse…